One of the hardest things a lot of women who wish to cloth diaper have to go through is convincing their significant other that cloth diapering is a good thing. Here’s the thing. Cloth diapering is NOT a good thing for everybody. For instance, if you don’t have a washer and dryer in your home, DON’T DO IT! Seriously. Unless you are super dedicated and planning on going to the laundry mat 3-5 times a week &/or washing your diapers by hand, don’t do it. It is okay to use disposable diapers. They are an amazing invention, and I am so grateful for them. I could never have done cloth when I had my first baby. I was so overwhelmed with just being a mom that all the added laundry and cleaning (no matter how little time it took) would have been too much for me.
Now that that’s over, I’ll step off my soap box and continue with the point of this post.
When I decided that I wanted to try cloth, I mentioned it to my husband a few times. Each time he’d say something like “gross” or “it’s too expensive,” and we’d leave it at that. I wasn’t convinced enough myself to be able to convince him.
I was finally able to convince him when I had convinced myself. I did research about cloth diapers. A LOT of research. I learned about every kind of diaper, how they worked, how much they cost, how many I would need, how to clean them, how to fold them, how much money they would save me, and more. I learned everything I could. Then, when I mentioned it to him, it wasn’t just a passing thought. It was a plan. I told him how much I thought I needed to spend, how much money that would save us, and why I thought it would be good for us.
All this planning got him a little more convinced, but it wasn’t enough. But here’s the thing. I do 90% of the diaper changing in our home (and I’m fine with that.) I wanted to use cloth, and since I was the one doing the changing, I felt that it should be mostly my decision. However, since it’s our money I would be spending, I wanted him on board.
So how did I finally convince him? I made a deal. I told him I would do the washing & most of the changing (which I already did anyway). I told him that I would expect him to help sometimes, but that for the most part, it would be my thing. That seemed to be enough for him, and he gave me the go ahead.
Now, here we are, a month after we started, and he has actually changed quite a few diapers. He won’t take the inserts out of the pockets, but that’s not a big deal. My daughter is on a super normal schedule as far as #2 goes, and I usually only leave the kids with my husband at night time, so when he has to change her, it’s always only wet. Things will change when the next baby gets here, but we have time to adjust to that.
So, if you’re trying to convince your significant other to let you switch to cloth, talk to him about the money you’ll save. Do your research and tell him all you’ve learned. If he sees how serious you are about it, he’s bound to let you go ahead and try. If all else fails, try cutting the same deal I did (if you’re okay with that.)
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