Creating Goals To Grow Closer Together

Posted on Oct 23 2013 - 7:00am by Markell


During the month of October, Traci and I are sharing a post each day that is focused on the family and helping yours to grow stronger and closer together. You can see the other posts here

Today, I want to talk about goals. I believe that when a group of people are working together for a common purpose, that group of people will get closer together as a result.

I once heard an analogy by John Bytheway (he is a motivational LDS speaker). He compared family progress to riding a tandem bicycle. Each person needs to be helping to pedal, or the forward progress slows down. Yes, you can keep going forward without that one person helping, but the other family members must work harder to compensate for the slacker. If the one person decides that instead of just coasting, they are going to work against the family by pedaling backwards or putting on the brakes, the family must work that much harder to keep going forward. 

Family goals work that same way. Each person must keep pushing forward, or the family cannot progress in an efficient manner. Sure, a family can survive without forward progress, but the point of living on this earth (I believe) is progression. It’s learning new things and learning how to become more like the Savior. It’s learning how to be more charitable, how to help those that need help. Those are all things that can more easily be accomplished with the guidance and support from a family. 

So, my challenge to you is to come up with a few goals you can work on as a family. They can be simple or complex. Short term or long term. The stipulations are that they need to be measurable (you can tell when you accomplish the goal), they need to have a time frame, and they need to be reasonable.  It is also a good idea to have some sort of a reward when the goal is accomplished. 

Our family has a goal to have Family Home Evening every week. I realize that that goal goes against the stipulations I just gave you. If it was a more thought out goal it would be something like, ‘we will have Family Home Evening every week for three months. If we are successful, we will go out for ice cream as a family.’ 

Another goal our family has is to read the entire Book Of Mormon before our oldest starts kindergarten. While that is three years away and seems like a long time, we generally get 3-5 verses in a day so we decided to give ourselves a little while. Reading it in a year with a 2 and 1 year old just doesn’t seem like a reasonable goal for our family. 

The goals you set don’t have to be religious oriented if you don’t want them to be. Maybe your family wants to save up pennies and nickels for a trip to Disney Land. One thing my parents did with our family growing up is everyone had the option of donating all their loose change into a Christmas jar. At the end of the year, we would find a needy family and provide Christmas for that family with all the change we saved up during the year. That was a great way to work together as a family for a common goal and be charitable at the same time. 

On top of family goals, it is be a good idea to set personal goals. These can be spiritual, financial, fitness related, whatever. The point is to push yourself to always be a better person. You will feel more accomplished and will have a brighter outlook on life, I promise. Sharing these personal goals with the family can be a great way to motivate each other to accomplish the goals. People with support and accountability are always more likely to accomplish their goals. 

So, there is my two sense for today.

Does your family set goals together? What are they? 


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